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যত মত তত পথ

As We Think, So We Go

প্রসঙ্গ; কঠিন চীবর দান

পুরনো ইতিহাস

তথাগত বুদ্ধ যখন ভিক্ষু-সঙ্ঘ গঠন করেছিলেন তখন সাধারণ মানুষের দেয়া যেকোনো কিছু গ্রহণ করতে ভিক্ষুদের বারণ করেছিলেন। তার মধ্যে ভিক্ষুদের পরনের চীবর বা কাপরও। ভিক্ষুগণ শ্মশানঘাট, রাস্তা, বনজঙ্গল থেকে পুরনো কাপরের অংশ সংগ্রহ করে তা জোরা লাগিয়ে পড়তো।

দিনে দিনে ভিক্ষু সংখ্যা বাড়তে লাগলো, তখন ভিক্ষুদের পরনের কাপরের অভাব দেখা দিলো। ভিক্ষুদের এমন দুর্দশা দেখে সাধারণ মানুষের মনে মায়া জন্মালো। অবস্থার পারিপার্শ্বিকতা বিবেচনা করে তখন বুদ্ধ সাধারন মানুষের থেকে পরনের কাপর গ্রহণ করার অনুমতি দিলো। শর্ত দিলো, বর্ষা কালের তিন মাস এক স্থানে অবস্থান করতে হবে, করে ধ্যান-সাধনা করে মুক্তি লাভের চেষ্টা  করতে হবে, যাতে লোকজন ভিক্ষুদের মন্দ না বলতে পারে, আর এক বছরে একজন ভিক্ষু একটি মাত্র চীবর গ্রহণ করতে পারবে।

তথাগত বুদ্ধের বাল্যকালের বন্ধু এবং ব্যক্তিগত চিকিৎসক জীবক প্রথম বারের মতো ভিক্ষুসঙ্ঘকে চীবর দান করেছিলেন বলে ইতিহাসে উল্লেখ আছে।

বর্তমান ইতিহাস

প্রায় ২৬০০ বছর পুরনো এই ঐতিহ্য আজও যথাযথ সম্মান আর মর্যাদার সাথে পালিত হয়ে আসছে, এবং পালিত হবে। পৃথিবীর প্রতিটি বৌদ্ধ প্রধান দেশে এবং সমাজে প্রবারনা পূর্ণিমা দিন থেকে এক মাস যাবত এই কঠিন চীবর দান পালন করে থাকে।

"আমাদের বিহারের কঠিন চীবর দান"- সবার কাছে এটি একটি অতি পরিচিত বাক্য। প্রবারনার দিন থেকে এক মাস প্রত্যেক বৌদ্ধ গ্রামে বিহারে যেন মহা- উৎসব।  পরিবার পরিজনের চলে মিলন-মেলা। ছোট ছেলে-মেয়েরা পায় নতুন পোশাক। সবাই এই দিনটির জন্য অপেক্ষা করে থাকে কবে আসবে আবার এই কঠিন চীবর দান!

আমরা বৌদ্ধ ধর্মে বিশ্বাসী। সারা পৃথিবীতে বৌদ্ধ ধর্মের সম্মান কদর অনেক বেশি। কেন? আমাদের বৌদ্ধদের জ্ঞান আর বিচক্ষণতার জন্য। আমাদের ভালোবাসা আর মায়া-মমতার জন্য। এখন কঠিন চীবর দান প্রসঙ্গে আসি। আমাদের বর্তমান বৌদ্ধ সমাজে বিহারকেন্দ্রিক কঠিন চীবর দান নিয়ে এত বারাবারি, আমার কাছে বেশি বারাবারি বলেই মনে হয়। এটা আমার একটা সামান্য পর্যবেক্ষণ মাত্র। আগেই বলেছি যত মত তত পথ।


ছোটবেলায় এক ভিক্ষুর লেখা একটি বই পরেছিলাম, তিনি  প্রশ্ন- উত্তর পর্বে লিখেছিলেন বৌদ্ধদের বড় ধর্মীয় উৎসব হল কঠিন চীবর দান। এটা ভুল। সঠিক উত্তর হল শুভ বৈশাখী পূর্ণিমা। এখন নিজেকে নিজে প্রশ্ন করেন একজন ভিক্ষু হয়ে কিভাবে এত বড় ভুল করেন? উত্তর একটাই, এই কঠিন চীবর দান নিয়ে এত বারাবারি বলেই এত বড় মস্ত ভুল করি আমরা, আমাদের ছেলেমেয়েরাও করে, ভবিষ্যতেও করবে।

কঠিন চীবর দানের মতো এমন গুরুত্বপূর্ণ একটা দিন যা কিনা হই-হুল্লুর আর অপ্রয়োজনীয় কাজে অপচয় করা হয়। মন্ত্রি-মিনিস্তারদের স্বাগত জানানো, এলাকার এম্পি চেয়ারম্যান, বড় দানবীর বড়ুয়া শিল্পপতি, চাটগাইয়া বড় ভান্তে, আরও কত কি??!!!!! এখন বলেন, এত কিছু করার পর কঠিন চীবর দানের মহত্ত্ব রইল কই? সাধারণ  ধর্মপ্রাণ মানুষ কি বলেন?

নীতি-নিয়মের মারপ্যাঁচ

আমরা সবাই জানি যে ভিক্ষু জীবন যাপনের অনেক নীতি-নিয়ম আছে, তা মেনে চলতে হয়। আর তারই ধারাবাহিকতা এই চীবর দান অনুষ্ঠান। এটা প্রধানত ভিক্ষুসঙ্ঘের অনুষ্ঠান, তবুও গৃহীরা এতে অংশ গ্রহণ করে অনেক পুণ্য সঞ্চয় করার সুযোগ পায়। ধর্ম চর্চা করার এই এক সময়। আগেই উল্লেখ করেছিলাম যে তথাগত বুদ্ধ শর্ত দিয়ে ছিলেন একজন ভিক্ষু একটি মাত্র চীবর গ্রহণ করতে পারবেন। কিন্তু আমরা দেখি অনেক নামি-দামি ভিক্ষুগণ ও একের অধিক চীবর গ্রহণএবং বহান করেন। কেউ কিচ্ছু বলেন না!

কঠিন চীবর দান দীর্ঘজীবী হউক

বারাবারি, বাহাদুরি আর নীতি- নিয়মের মারপ্যাঁচের মধ্যে না পরে আসুন আমরা যথাযথ ভাবে আমাদের এই দিনটি পালন করি, এই অপূর্ব মুহূর্ত যেন অপচয় না করি। পরিবার- পরিজন, ছেলে-মেয়ে, নাতি- নাতনি, সমাজ, আর গ্রামবাসীদের নিয়ে আসুন আমরা এই দিনটি পূর্ণ ধর্মীয় ভাবনা দিয়ে পালন করি। আমি জানি আমাদের সমাজে অনেক পরিবর্তন এসেছে, মানুষজন অনেক শিক্ষিত, পকেটে পয়সা আছে, নতুন নতুন চিন্তাধারা আছে, সেজন্য মূল আদর্শ বিকৃত করে কিছু করতে হবে, সেটা বুদ্দিমানের কাজ নয়।

কঠিন চীবর দানের মতো একটি দিন আমাদের জীবন এবং ভবিষ্যৎ প্রজন্মের জন্য খুবই গুরুত্বপূর্ণ। আসুন সবাই মিলে এই ঐতিহ্যটাকে টিকিয়ে রাখি, আর প্রার্থনা করি কঠিন চীবর দান দীর্ঘজীবী হউক।

Praggananda Scholarship 2014

I'm pleased to announce that Praggananda Scholarship 2014 is being provided for Buddhist Studies in Bangladesh. All eligible applicants are invited to apply.

For more information, please email to dhammapsyche@hotmail.com or find me on facebook Save The Society Bangladesh

Buddha sasanam ciram titthatu Long live the Buddhist Teaching 

The 2nd Kulaputta Ordination Pictures

Dear Dhamma friends,

My apologies for delay. I also was engaged with my travels and studies. Last year the ordination project program was pretty good how ever I had a feeling that didn't organize the program well. I have received the ordination pictures just recently. They did not take appropriate photos of the entire program but some

photos I got just enough to prove that the ordination ceremonies were successful.

I'm grateful to every one who helped me for this projects unconditionally, the merits are

earned so one day they will be supportive on your journey to Nibbana.

Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!

Kulaputta Ordination 2010 update

Dear Friends in Dhamma!

Soon I will be able to post and publish the reports of the Kulaputta Ordination project. I always grateful to every one who supported me and the project.

Bhavatu Sabbamangalam!

Kulaputta Ordination 2010

The Project



Introduction

Welcome to the introduction of our Kūlaputta Pabbajjā project. The organization SAVE THE SOCIETY is pleased to announce about 35 Kūlaputtas will be ordained in Comilla (Bangladesh) on 25th of December, 2010.

Kūlaputta Pabbajjam is a pure Buddhist traditional Pāli phrase. Kūla means family, folks, or kin, and Putta means son. Here Kūlaputta means the son of noble family. The Buddha often used to say His disciples (Monks) were His sons, born from His mouth, from the teaching. Pabbajjā means the renunciation or giving up of worldly life. When a male person is born in a Buddhist family, it is his family's responsibility to let him be ordained at least once in his life. It is a custom, considered a rare opportunity, a chance to earn great merit. And the parents or supporters are considered as Sāsana Dāyaka (or supporters of the Buddha’s Sāsana).

Many Buddhist families in Bangladesh are not performing their noble duties in a proper way because of a lack of self-awareness, proper education, and poverty. SAVE THE SOCIETY is looking after those families and “doing, what needs to be done.”


The Purpose


This is a noble purpose, a universal purpose. Many Buddhist families in Bangladesh, mostly in the countryside, can’t afford the expenditures necessary for their sons' ordination ceremonies. Because of this, the children of the Buddhist families in Bangladesh lack in their moral education, self-awareness, tradition, and social wellbeing. They do not have the proper guidance. SAVE THE SOCIETY is finding the children of those families who don't have enough support and helping them in this noble purpose. We believe that the future, the beauty, and the longevity of the Buddha’s Dhamma is in their hands.


Place


These great ordination ceremonies will be held at Sāntiniketana Vihāra, Comilla, Bangladesh. Comilla is a district situated south-east of Bangladesh, about 180 Kms from the capital city Dhaka. This place was the kingdoms of Pāla and Sena Dynasties; they were devoted Buddhist kings (300 BC to 1300 AD). In the present time, about 25 thousands Buddhists are living and scattered in about 20 villages. About 20/25 monks are living in 12 monasteries supported by the local Buddhists. Sāntiniketana Vihāra is the oldest and largest temple with about 400 supportive Buddhist families.


Duration


The ordination ceremonies and intensive training will last for 10 days.


After this great occasion and intensive training they will be awarded for their noble performance. This is considered a temporary ordination. If some would like to continue their monkhood, they will be accepted by the local temples. The organization will keep supporting them morally, educationally, and physically (with things like healthcare).


Why there is no female ordination



There is no discrimination based on gender, caste, or religion in this project or in this practice. It's simply that there is no nun monastery in this area to be found, and no one can be found there who also has any experience of being a nun or teaching nuns. We apologize for this, and SAVE THE SOCIETY would be grateful and proud to coordinate or help in any way any organization or person willing to introduce Nun ordination in this area, to teach and to support.


Our Appeal


We appeal to you, to anybody or any organization, to support and sponsor us in this great project, for this noble purpose. We welcome everyone who wants to take a part in this project, fully or partially sponsoring it.


Please, accept our invitation


We are inviting anyone who wishes to attend and observe our great ceremonies to do so. We are delighted and happy to provide you accommodations.


To contact and know more about the project and us


Please, visit our updated website www.savesociety-bd.blogspot.com
By post- Santiniketana Vihara, Po- Aliswar, South Comilla, 3670, Bangladesh
By phoning- 61 0405283731 (Australia), 880 1716 621727 (Bangladesh)
By e-mailing to society.save@gmail.com or dhammapsyche@hotmail.com


Thanking you so much,

Buddha Sāsanam Dīgham Titthatu,,, Long Live the Buddha’s Teaching



(Praggananda Sraman)

The Project Coordinator
Save the Society (STS), Bangladesh

Praggananda Scholarship Recipients, 2010

Praggananda Scholarship

Praggananda Scholarship

Nanda is always looking for ways to 'give back' for all the help and support he received during his education. His latest project is a good example of 'giving back'. The Praggananda Scholarship for the poorest of children in his home town and surrounding area. These would be children who couldn't afford to continue their education or maybe couldn't even begin school. It was for children between the ages of 5 and 16 years old.

Save the Society volunteers canvased Comilla, Bangledesh and the surrounding area for applicants. Nanda had decided that 12 applicants was all that Save the Society could handle, but he received 13, so that was the number he ended up with. The applications were mostly from the children of poor farmers, even one whose father had died 4 years ago, and with three people in her family, they had no income at all. When the applications finally arrived, Nanda began to share the story with his friends and our meditation group. Our meditation group decided to give our donations toward this project. Then several of us wanted to sponsor one child ourselves. With a donation of $50.00 we could help a child go to school for one year. Nanda then gave us each a profile of a child with a picture of them Seeing the child who would benifit from this small donation made me feel that I was really helping a child and so much more aware of how lucky the children in developed countries are to have the opportunity to go to school with very little cost. We tend to take education for granted, along with a lot of other things.

What a great project, and what a great opportunity to take part in helping children.


If anyone else would like to donate to this scholarship program, you can email: middleway.dhamma@gmail.com for further details.

Thank You!

Sasana Dayaka

Sāsana Dāyaka, the inheritance of the Buddha’s teaching

Sāsana Dāyaka is pure traditional Buddhist Pāli Phrase . Sāsana means the teaching or teaching of the Buddha or the life time of the teaching of the Buddha, and likewise. Dāyaka means a donor, helper, supporter or a sponsor. In Feminine form the words become Dāyika. At once, Sāsana Dāyaka means a person who supports, helps or sponsors the teaching of the Buddha, His Dhamma, and Sańgha. In general belief one who offers one’s son or daughter to the Buddha’s teaching or in the name of the Buddha can only be called the Sāsana Dāyaka or Sāsana Dāyika.

Heart of Buddhist Tradition

This is also the tradition, that if a male child is born into a Buddhist family, it is the family’s moral and social responsibility to let him be ordained as a monk at least one time in his life. There are some families that can be found in the society who have no sons or even no children. Or all of them are grown up, or they don’t want to become a monk and live in a temple. In this situation, if some one wants to become a Sāsana Dāyaka, they can sponsor someone else’s son who wants to be ordained as a monk.

There are some families that can be found in the society who are poor and economically unstable, whose sons want to become a monk, but the family can’t afford the expenditures of the ceremonies. In this case everyone can sponsor the boy-to-be-ordained and both can earn a lot of merits.

Among the Theravada Buddhist countries in this world, Myanmar is the country where Sāsana Dāyaka phrase are used in many occasions. In their native tongue they pronounce it as “Thādana Dāyaka”.

About 4 years of my present life, I lived in Myanmar, had uncountable opportunities to attend different kinds of ceremonies. “Shin Pyu” is one of the remarkable ones. Every year in almost every temple and village, they celebrate the Shin Pyu ceremonies. Shin Pyu is a kind of ceremony where a boy (or a girl) is initiated to monk or novice monk. Another ceremony is called Dullāva, Dullāva means rare. According to the Buddha, to become a monk, and to live as a monk, is a rare opportunity among humans. So, the men in the families always take the opportunity to become a monk for at least a week (or more). They live in the temple, practice meditation, and all kinds of social and moral conducts. There are even many government holidays available for this occasion.

In Thailand, Laos, and Cambodia, I think they have the same social and religious systems and traditions. The country of Sri Lanka, is a bit different, maybe because of the different cultures and traditions.

So, yes, this kind of ordination is very important for the Buddhist families, for every Buddhist. This can be called the heart of Buddhist culture.

Without the presence of monks, the Buddha’s Sāsana would not survive. So the world needs monks, good monks, to protect the Sāsana in this world.


Historical Background


Having attained enlightenment the Buddha paid a visit to Kapilāvatthu the capital city of King Soddhodhana. That year, (His) son Rāhula was 7 years. Yosodhārā , the mother of Rāhula, saw the Buddha was coming to the palace. Then she told Rāhula,“ go to your father and ask for your inheritance.” (The purpose was to have the Buddha back in the family as father and husband). Then the Buddha said to Rāhula there is only one way to inherit the Buddha, (me), and that is taking the vow of the triple gem (The Buddha-Dhamma-Sańgha), and receiving ordination’.

After the great passing away of the Buddha, one name is always at the top of the list, who restored, re-established, and reformed the Buddha Sāsana, that is Emperor Asoka in India. He built 84,000 temples and pillars around India and its subcontinent, reformed the Sańgha community in a pure way, restored the Tipitaka, and sent royal missionaries to propagate the Sāsana, exchanged monks and Tipitak in diplomatic purposes. He even sponsored the third great Buddhist council.

Once he asked an audience of monks whether he truly inherited the Buddha’s Sāsana. Then the monks said to him that he would not truly inherit the Sāsana until he himself or his children are initiated to the Sańgha. Then Emperor Asoka’s son Mahinda and daughter Sańghamittā were initiated to Sańgha, the monastic order.


Some Criticism

There are some criticisms among the societies. For me it is a shame that I have to mention it at this point. It is said that there are some people in the society that think and say now-a-days, peoples families ordain their children as a monk to live in the temples because they can’t support them in the family. In the temple they can get benefits from donations and so on. This kind criticism comes from people who are few in number, but they are the rich and the leaders. Psychologically they see this situation in a different way, because they have money and power. In some cases it is true what they say, but it is not wrong. I would say they are really ignorant and have no education and respect for the Buddha and his teachings. The worse thing that they can do for themselves and for the Buddha’s Sāsana is criticising in this way. As I mentioned earlier, that a monk life is rare to live, everybody doesn’t have that opportunity. They should read Samaňňaphala Sutta, about how the Buddha was explaining the benefits of a monk life and King Ajātasattu responded with humble respect. Living a Monk’s life is a way of living; if anyone wants to live the life of a monk, we should appreciate and support rather that criticize. Any criticism brings great Akusala kamma, the bad karma, remember that, please.


A Rare Opportunity


Now you know what a rare opportunity is it to become a monk or sponsor someone who wants to become a monk. If you want to become a true Sāsana Dāyaka, take a chance. Leave your message, name and phone number, I will contact you as soon as possible. Thank you

Long live the Buddha Sāsana, Buddha Sāsanam dīgham tiţţhatu

An Enlightened Idea!........ Sue says

An Enlightened Idea!

When Nanda first spoke about this project, I was struck by what an enlightened idea it really was. Having spent time in India, I am keenly aware of the insurmountable hardships many families face, with education very often regarded to be an unaffordable luxury.

Now, due to his efforts, a year later, I see a photograph of 22 ordained baby monks in Bangladesh and feel honoured to have played a minor role, knowing that they have been given an opportunity which was otherwise inconceivable.

Anyone who is fortunate enough to know Nanda would agree that there is something very special about him. A wise, compassionate, gentle friend with a free spirit and ready laugh, who gets the job done! If even one of these young monks follow in his footsteps, the world will be a better place. Well done Nanda.

Sue

My Understanding of Buddhism

Just sponsoring one monk and seeing the results have changed me and my understanding of Buddhism

Linda Gann

The first time I heard about the Save the Society Organization, Nanda was talking about it as a project that he wanted to do himself as a moral obligation to help his society. This idea came to him as he travelled around, studied and received help from the Buddha’s teaching and different communities after becoming a monk.

As a donor and sponsor of one monk, I have watched this organization go from an ‘idea’ to reality in less than a year. My fellow classmate and friend, Praggannanda or ‘Nanda’ to his friends, wanted to help the younger generation in his home country, Bangladesh, to be aware of a better way of life and how to help society. Nanda’s constant effort to get support for his organization was an admirable thing to observe. He began by asking his friends to sponsor a monk for one week. I was one of those friends. He asked a temple in Thailand that has a branch in Perth, to donate some robes. They donated 35 sets of robes for this project. This seemed to get the ball rolling. Soon he had many donors from the Thai community in Perth and from different parts of the world that visit his website. Within weeks of receiving these donations the date was set for the ordination. The call went out to all the surrounding villages within 120 kilometres of his home town, Comilla, for anyone interested in being a monk, to live in the temple for one week to experience what this is like and to go to school. Nanda organized every detail of this project and worked tirelessly as did his family and relatives in Comilla, carrying out his instructions.

Despite the robes being held up in customs, where they still are to this day, to having to change the date twice, the day finally arrived. December 25th through the 31^st was the time. Seeing the first pictures come through from the ordination day made me cry with a mixture of joy and sadness that Nanda couldn’t be there to ordain them himself. Even I wanted to be there to be a part of the ceremony and enjoy the fellowship. There were 22 monks in total and they looked so wonderful in their robes that were donated from the surrounding temples. I can’t wait for this coming years’ project. It is a great feeling to be a small part of such a great thing. I feel that in a small way I am helping the younger generation to carry on the Buddhist way of life.

Seeing this project from beginning to completion was a wonderful thing. It made me aware of the needs of this country and many other developing countries in a way that I never would have understood otherwise. Just sponsoring one monk and seeing the results have changed me and my understanding of Buddhism. Thank you Nanda for the opportunity to be of help.

The Foot Steps of the Kulaputtas

I’m a person who believes in work rather than words. The pictures are awesome, they tell the story. I just want to say we did a great job, a great Kusala Kamma. I want to thank and to say that I’m grateful to everyone who supported me and this project. Buddha sasanam digham titthatu, long live the Buddha’s teaching.

Overwhelmed with Joy and Success! Grateful to Every One

The activities of SAVE THE SOCIETY

We are very pleased to inform you that the (Kulaputta Pabbajja) Great Ordination ceremonies will be held on 25th of December, 2009

You can be a Sasana-Dayaka

By sponsoring one candidate ( the monk-to-be) you can be the inheritant of the Buddha's Sasana.

Great opportunity of earning merits!

By donating one or more meals to the newly ordained monks you would have a great opportunity of earning merits, as well the participation to the geart ordination ceremony.

To know more information, please contact us!

I was overwhelmed with joy and success for all the support by all the devotees at Dhammaloka. It was a great day for me, as I said, someone was telling me YOU SHOULD GO TO DHAMMALOKA at fullmoon day!

I'm so grateful to all the Thai-Sri Lanka-Burmese devotees for their support, unconditional love and respect. The names are too many to mention, even I don't know the names. And sorry about that. Please, provide me with your details.

The ordination ceremonies will be held sometime in December, 2009. This is a great success. Please, provide me with your name and address, all those who donated for this project. We will send you the pictures of the novice monks and photos of entire ceremonies.

Please, email me at dhammapsyche@hotmail.com or call me at 0405283731,

We will keep you updated.

Rejoice in Dhamma!


( Special thanks to Upasika Cherry for being there all the time, Mr Mike Davids and Linda Gann for supporting. Mr Prem, Mr Mohan for understanding and support.)

Counselling Session

An Outlook on th e Counselling Session

By- Praggananda Sraman

It was a very meaningful counselling session with Iwona. She came in to the counselling room with her own a cup of tea. I asked her about her situation “What’s going on?” very nicely, and she responded me with a smile, she looked so confident. What I mean to say confident is because she said “you are being a monk, so you might be able to be a good counsellor, and solve out my problems.” I found myself that part of a counselling session in counselling room is important that a client trusts the counsellor. And I myself was so encouraged with this complement and to carry out the session

There is another reason that I said she looked so confident that she knew what the problems she is having. Very firmly, she acclaimed that “I’m suffering from Procrastination.”

I said with a smile “Procrastination!!” is not a big problem that you can suffer so much (?)! This comment I also tried to used as a probe, but, still I myself believe that this is not such a major psychological problem that we need to expend our time and energy for it to discuss. Why so? I will explain shortly in the conclusion of this writing.

But, I did see how she was disturbed by the so called procrastination.

She kept saying “I want to get involve with things like party, seminar, community group, some kind of social gathering. But most of the time I can’t make up in time. Most of the time I make decision at the last moment.”

I asked her whether she is so much organized or having the lac

k of organize. Then she said “I could be so organized person.”..since she was living as a single mother quite a long while with two growing up children, full time works, family priority, so much organized.

She is good with big decision but in some SMALL decision is not that good. She feels that she is so procrastinator.

To keep our conversation in the point and to check it out I asked her again “What is your explanation of procrastination could be?” I was listening very reflectively on her way of expression. My e

mpathy was so touchable that I felt myself. With the scattered smile she was showing me her diary, said “Look this, this is an invitation of the workshop that I like so much. I already noted it on my diary, time is not so much, but I haven’t enrolled yet, but I want to attend this workshop for 99.9% sure. (Wow, in this case, really the procrastination could be a problem).

She said that sometime she is not strong enough to decide but none of them wants to miss.

In summarising, sometimes I asked her whether she is restless or not relaxed. Answer was “I m felling so preoccupied.”

Then I asked her what kind of pers

on she likes to be in this case, and what is her fulfilment. She responded so wisely saying that she has enough fulfilment, now this is the time for her to looking on the self accomplishment and self discovering!

We both were so active in the counselling session and committed ourselves to manage the situation what ever it’s come out. A kind of challenging!

I asked her what she wants now instead of what she doesn’t want. The answer was that she wants to be organized every time but it crowds her mind. The word “WANT” that I took for my further consideration. Her WANTS now so positive and wise, so there was nothing to oppose but appreciation. At that point asked her how much realistic is she or whether she wants to be more realistic. She is realistic, and she wanted to be more realistic. She also confessed that “We can’t have all what we want to.”

In the challenging point, I asked her “What would be the benefits of being non-procrastinated?” she said that she would have lot of benefits from it. Not being so restless, worried, being relaxed, well prepared, and enjoying the moment that where she wants to be, much more i

nvolving with the community. Meanwhile, I asked her whether she is feeling lonely or the lack of family. She is fine with this, and she covers it being with involvements.

She is really looking for the meaning of

her life, and that’s such a wise!

I said her to look the situation in different ways if she has any other options. We both saw there were many other options, which we could work out. Very positive!

I asked her in this situation if there is any body that could be helpful, or to take the person as a model. She only saw me in this case, and we had some fun.

Do you think you are doing enough? I asked her.

O yap, I m doing more than enough, but just being hard with situation. She answered.

She asked me “Is this normal?”

Now, Dear Reader, may I ask you “What do you think? Is this normal?

Yes, it is normal as I have mentioned earlier. But, but, as I have seen how she was being so disturbed by the procrastination. It could be a cause of a major problem, too.

Oh yea, I should mention that she had to extend the submission of the assignment to college. I found it was the effect of procrastination.

She opened for suggestions. I haven’t found any drugs; is there any drug for this?

I suggested her to keep herself sometime quiet and alone only

with her mind-body-feeling. No worries, no works, no planning that time. Yes, this is called meditation, in west. In east we say mind culturing, mind calming, mind developing, mind cultivating, mind purifying.

Yes, the matter is to save the time for that, and the preparation for that. 24 hours a day, save 1 minute from each hour, and it’s become 24 minutes. If u think this is too heavy to carry out red

uce it in to 12 minutes. With relaxed body and mind sit some where which is comfortable for you, and then reflect on the mind, the feeling, the self you find, what and who are you? What are you doing? How much you did? How did you do that? Is it not enough? Why? Why not? Then, if you need help with just write down with a pen on paper. Then you could see your procrastination is there. Then you could negotiate with the procrastination yourself.

It is not only good for daily life happiness, but also for your insight and spirituality.

Now, I would like to tell about procrastination shortly, as I have promised earlier.

Procrastination

The word itself comes from the Latin word PROCRASTINATUS, PRO (forward) and CRASTINUS is (of tomorrow).

Procrastination is a quite complex psychological behaviour that affects almost everyone to some degree or other. According to individual response it can be a minor or major. With some others it is a source of considerable stress and anxiety.

Procrastinator is always optimistic, usually this is accompanied by expression of reassurance that everything is under control.

Some kind of expression can be heard from a procrastin

ator-

· I only work well under pressure

· I’m so preoccupied always

· I’m fine, its just hard a bit for me

Other Characteristics-

· Low Self-Confidence

· I’m too Busy

· Stubbornness

· Manipulation

· Coping with Pressures

· A Frustrated Victim

Four Simple Reasons for Procrastination

· Difficulty

· Time- Consuming

· Lack of Knowledge

§ Fears

Four Complex reasons for Procrastination

· Perfectionism

· Anger/ Aversion

· Low Frustration Tolerance

· Self-Downing

Benefits of Overcoming Procrastination

· Peace of mind

· A feeling of strength and Purpose

· Healthy feeling of being in charge of life

· Experiencing increased personal freedom

The Inner Workings of Procrastination

A- Activating Events

B- Belief System

C- Consequence

Watch up them with you! they are with you!

Step to the Cure

1. Realize you are delaying something unnecessarily

2. Discover the real reasons for your delay. Listen them.

3. Dispute those real reasons and overcome them. Be vigorous.

4. Begin the task

5. Practice what you’ve learned. Take helps from pen -

papers, note them on. I’m delaying on… because, reasons for delay and arguments against delay.

Some Kits that will help

· Make the tasks look small and easy in your mind.

· Small part of the task each time is fine, do little by little.

· Plans, five-minutes, 10 minutes,, so on

· Advertise your plans to accomplish something, and let peer pressure push you forward.

· Use a good friend as a positive role model

· Modify your environment

· Plan tomorrow and establish priority

· Expect some backsliding. Don’t expect to be perfect even when you’re trying to get rid of perfectionism! So occasionally, your plans will not work. Accept setbacks and start again.

An Insight

Procrastination is reinforcing, every time you delay, it reinforces your negative attitude toward the task. Every time you put off something you dislike, so you-

· Strengthen the habit of not doing;

· Practice avoidance instead participation

· Avoid acquiring training and skills, and

· Indoctrinate yourself with fears

Try not to make or have any excuse for any task doing.

Insightful

There is golden chance to enlighten your mind. Practice meditation on this point. See how greatly we can reduce the influences of procrastination in our lives. By this, we experience more self-freedom, the greater personal self satisfactions.

Or may be you can have some fun of being a procrastinator with yourself. This is a life game!